Things that last forever
Forever
- adverb
1. without ever ending; eternally.
2. continually; incessantly; always.

-noun
3. an endless or seemingly endless period of time.

-idiom
4. forever and a day, eternally; always.

-adverb
1. For everlasting time; eternally.
2. At all times; incessantly.

-adverb
1. for a limitless time.
2. for a very long or seemingly endless time.
3. without interruption.



Based on these definitions I've found, I think it's impossible for anything to go on literally "forever" the only definition that can even begin to apply are the ones that include "seem" in them.

I don't know how I feel about this conclusion, I mean the hopeful side of myself likes to think that certain emotions can truly last forever, like love, but honestly who knows. The rest of my life I understand, but forever? I mean I could say that right now I firmly believe that I could love Joel for the rest of my life, but I can't with certainty say "forever." It's a technicality, but I've just been thinking about it. So many marriages end in divorce, out of the small portion that stay married there's an even smaller number of them that could be classified as happy marriages. I'm not against marriage in any way at all, I can't wait to get married and I think it's going to be fantastic I just think it's worth thinking about these things now. What does it mean to me? I know that when I get married I will not get divorced and therefore I will not sign any stupid prenuptial agreements because if you're already planning ahead for the marriage to end how can you ever expect it to succeed? I mean I understand in Hollywood why they might do that only because marriage in Hollywood is like have a boyfriend, they throw it around like high schoolers and play at having real relationship constantly. Every other day someone is getting divorced and someone else is getting married. But for me, I would never marry anyone who would ask me to sign papers like that because to me that demonstrates weakness and a "I have to do this just in case" mentality that could overshadow the whole marriage.

I was watching a show a couple weeks ago and they went over a list of things to ask your partner and to know about each other before you get married. here's the list:

Work Questions:
1. Are you working in your chosen profession?
2. How many hours a week do you work?
3. What is your dream job?
4. What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?
5. What does your job entail? (Do you travel often? Perform dangerous tasks?)

Money Questions:
1. What is your annual income?
2. Are we going to continue having separate bank accounts or one joint account?
3. Do you have significant debts?
4. Do you believe in establishing a family budget?
5. How important is it for you to make a lot of money?

Sex Questions:
1. What sexual activities do you enjoy most? Are there specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable?
2. Do you feel comfortable initiating sex? If yes, why? If no, why?
3. What do you need in order to be in the mood for sex?
4. How often do you need or expect sex?
5. Is sexual fidelity an absolute necessity in a good marriage?

Partenhood Questions:
1. Do you want children? When? How many? Are you unable to have children?
2. Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or spiritual foundation?
3. How important is it to you that your children are raised near your extended family?
4. Do you believe in spanking a child? What type of discipline do you believe in (time outs, standing in the corner, taking away privileges, etc)?
5. Should boys be treated the same as girls? Should they have the same rules for conduct? Should you have the same expectations for their sexual behavior?

Religion Questions:
1. Do you believe in God? What does that mean to you?
2. Do you have a current religious affiliation? Is it a big part of your life?
3. Does your religion impose any behavioral restrictions that would affect your partner?
4. How important is it to you for your partner to share your religious beliefs?
5. How important is it to you for your children to be raised in your religion?


Maybe if Joel ever conquers his fear of marriage and purposes to me we'll go over this list together. We've already talked about most everything that's on there at one point or another. But there are some things that we haven't talked about. Like whether we'd have our own bank accounts or a joint one. I know that when it comes to kids we each have our own opinions on some things but I don't think it's anything that we can't reach a compromise on.

Time really doesn't account for quality of a relationship, it speaks to longevity definitely, but Joel and I have only been together nearly a year and a half and we're solid. We're not a new relationship anymore, we definitely have our little disagreements, but at the end of the day we still hold each other and love each other and any small disagreements fall away. On all the big points, we seem to agree for the most part, it's just stupid little things throughout the day that we both take opposites sides on and decide to have strong opinions on when the issues don't even really matter nearly 85% of the time. After a lot of thinking about this and questioning what it could mean for a marriage, little bickering, I think that it's great, it shows we both have immense amounts of passion and we're willing to stick up to each other. Which I think is really important.

I think I'll continue this more later on....

I'm going to just start a new entry instead of adding onto this long one.